A few years ago, an older relative made a casual observation that in a room full of couples Craig and I were the ones that seemed affectionate towards one another. My response was perhaps it was because we are the ones who have been married the shortest (sad logic if you ask me) and then we quickly moved on to another topic.
However that moment has stuck with me quite some time later. Surely we’ve gone through times where things weren’t great. Heck we’ve gone through times when we’ve wanted to strangle one another and stay far away. But when you add the days, weeks and months together and see them as years by and large we’ve chosen to live affectionately. Goofy and affectionate. That’s definitely our style.
I want our kids to see us kiss. To grow up in a home where mom and dad love each other and it’s clear.
A place where even during the chaos of dinnertime with a toddler who likes to throw food more than he likes to eat it and a 7 year old who doesn’t want to eat anything , there is room for a stolen smooch, a giggle and conspiratorial rolled eyes asking if it’s bedtime yet. United we stand. You know, until we fall on to the couch in absolute exhaustion after putting them to bed.
Shouldn’t our children get a healthy sense of what affection looks like from us at a young age? To know that not only do we love them SO much but love each other too? Do you remember seeing your parents be affectionate towards one another? There are a few tiny glimpses from my childhood that I remember. Small things, usually silly stuff too. A flour fight in the kitchen. My dad making silly faces while mimicking my mom and the laughs that came along with it all. Small but memorable.
Ten years into our relationship and quickly approaching the eight years of marriage mark, there is something I’ve saved for quite some time. I’m not a card writer, I’m not a card sender and I’m not a card saver. I hate to say it but I’m just not. However this one card that didn’t come from my husband, but from my parents on our first anniversary is one I have saved and always will.
It’s a reminder to me that we’ve had a good thing from the start and that even in the hardest of times one thing still remains true. We honestly love each other. Simple as that.
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